What or who comes to mind when you think of the "dead weight" relationships in your life? Relationships flow whether it is a friendship, family, spouse or any type of relationship at all. In order to explain what I mean by "flow" vividly, I'm going to give a general name to anything that can be exchanged in a relationship whether tangible or intangible. I'll call it energy (as many in the healing arts professions already do). So in other words, in this discussion love is energy, money is energy and even a smile is energy; anything that you can think of that is exchanged in a relationship is energy. With that in mind, a relationship (business or personal) is suppose to flow with all kinds of energy (ideas, money, affection, love, gifts, laughs, time...). When there is corruption in the flow of a relationship at that point the relationship has become toxic.
The flow is corrupted when one stops giving, restricts what they give or puts conditions on what they give. For example, if someone stops giving or restricts what they give to another, but blames the other person for their neglect in order to attain something, the flow has been corrupted because one member of the relationship has become manipulative. In any relationship that relates to business, there are conditions on some things of course. If I am producing something for currency, obviously my production comes with a price; but that is understood by both parties in the business relationship. So what would a toxic business relationship look like? Well, hypothetically, say an individual gives a "free gift" to customers on a normal basis. Customers are led to believe that the gift is theirs for free no matter what. A customer returns a product because they aren't satisfied with it. The business individual accepts the returned item but charges the customer for the free gift. He returns the money to the customer minus the money for the free gift. The flow in the relationship with the customer has been corrupted, because now the customer can't trust the business individual. I personally wouldn't purchase anything from such an individual ever again.
If one member of a relationship becomes harsh, abusive or controlling; the flow has been corrupted. When the flow of a relationship is corrupted, it can be the end of the relationship or it can be the beginning of a stronger relationship. It is up to the individual who wants to see change.
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