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I was leading a client of mine through some guided imagery.  She started out beautifully, but when she had to acquire things that she desired (in guided imagery exercises) she wouldn’t take it.  There was always something blocking her.  Sometimes it was something big and scary, but often it was something that she just couldn’t see.  As the reader (in the previous post) has pointed out, part of the problem with asking "Can you" is that it will give some an excuse to give in to the belief that they can't.  If the individual can't envision themselves in their new life, they may stay stuck in their old life and comfort zone.  Perhaps it would be effective to look at WHY they so tenaciously want to hold to the belief that they can't. 

When the client I described above tried to explain why she couldn't, she insisted that it was some external power that prevented her from having her dreams.  What she adamantly refused to see, was that it was SHE who was standing in her own way.  Sometimes people are afraid of owning their power.  Think of the first time you got into the driver's seat of a car with your learner's permit.  All of a sudden you have this tremendous responsibility.  There are some who are used to being controlled by others.  This is what they know and understand.  They are a passenger in their own life rather than being the driver.  When they need to take the wheel, it is the scariest thing to them because it is like being in that driver's seat with no driving skills, no guidance nor anything except a permit to drive.  Because this is what having control of their life means, they feel safer saying "I can't."

Unfortunately, the individual who believes this is the only one who can put an end to their lack of power.  They have to face their own fear of having control and take the wheel in their own lives.  There will be more on how one can take steps to own one's life and own one's power in future posts.